I didn’t play it down.
I didn’t deflect to a different topic.
I didn’t race past the moment.
I didn’t minimise my achievements.
I absorbed it all.
I let the hosts words sink in. I felt it and owned it.
It has taken me a good 12 months to get to that point.
To acknowledge the power of what I have created.
And, bizarrely enough it happened on live tv, which I always said I would never do.
TV freaked me out to the core. I’m an introvert, much more comfortable being just me, behind my laptop.
Yesterday my publicist called me at 1pm and asked if I could be in the city for Sky News at 5.30?
And able to step into your power.
Here are my tips on how to overcome your fear and step into your purpose:
1. When faced with a big decision:
Acknowledge the way you feel. Sort through your emotions, is the only reason that you are hesitating because you are afraid? What is it that you are afraid of? Weigh up what is going to happen if it doesn’t work out, and then weigh up what will happen if it does work out? For me, doing this TV appearance far, far exceeded anything that could go wrong for me. Ask yourself, is it aligned with my vision and where I want to go? As another example, about 6-months ago I was invited to go on A Current Affair, but it was to talk about whether cough medicine really worked, from a mums perspective. Sure, I am a mum and I use medicine for my kids, but it isn’t really my thing, and it wasn’t aligned with my vision, so I gave the opportunity to one of my clients whom it was aligned with.
What does your gut say?
We all know the saying to listen to your gut, and I am a big believer in intuition. My intuition was speaking to me from the minute I was presented with the opportunity but the fear wanted me to ignore it. However, when I got real still and focused on my breathing in the Uber it was loud and clear. I felt that everything was going to be ok and knew I had made the right decision, but it wasn’t until I was taking those steps of action and had committed that it became dead obvious.
Trust the process:
So often in life we try and control everything to pan out the way we want it, however, when we do this sometimes we get blindsided to the signals and new pathways that are being presented to us. I have tried to control loads of stuff in my life, and I have had loads of stuff go wrong but I trust that the universe sees the bigger picture and presents me with challenges to grow as a person so I can handle what is in store for me. Sometimes this means failing, sometimes this means going through conflicting times, sometimes this means getting it wrong but life experiences we need to move forward are never wrapped up in a red bow. Trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be and learning the things you need to no matter how they are presented to you.
I realised some time ago that I subconsciously hold my breath when I am stressed, and this exacerbates anxiety. It sounds like the most obvious thing to do, but really focusing on your breathing completely changes your state of mind and takes your body out of ‘fight or flight’ mode. When focusing on breathing, long breaths in and out it brings us back to peace. It then allows your higher self to start to take control and guide you. It is also a fact that when we are stressed our IQ lowers, and after having kids and baby brain who needs any further deductions in that department!
We’ve been conditioned to instantly think of all the things that could go wrong: What if I fail? What if I can’t do it? What if I look stupid? Instead, I started saying to myself, ‘What if I love it? What if it is an amazing experience? What if I regret not doing?’ It created a sense of excitement and I grabbed on to that feeling and expanded it.
Pain and discomfort:
So often we do everything we can to avoid pain and stressful situations, but in my mind that is where our biggest lessons are given to us. It is life preparing us for the next stage, it is testing and stretching our courage, our faith, our strength, our resilience. It is ok to fall down, to sit within it for a little while, but there becomes a time when we have the option to let it defeat us, or where we can choose to learn and grow from it. All of my biggest breakthroughs have come off the back of going through a challenging time. I know for sure, I couldn’t have handled and mastered my mind about going on live TV without the lessons I have learned from pain and discomfort.